Non-emotional Thinker

09Sep08

Sometimes, we are just to engrossed in the harsh demands of the matter at hand that we forgo all our values and principles, acting only in regard of our emotions and really mess things up. Basically, we don’t THINK before we act when we are in that “mode”. I experienced that yesterday and i realised that it is what really distinguishes a truly mature person from on that is not really, really. Not insulting anyone, it’s just my POV and a study of this logic. Humans are capable creatures after all, with our gifted ability to think. Acting purely on our emotions brings out our primal side, which sometimes is not exactly the best way to look and deal with any matter. If you are a nice person, naturally, your basic values and principles should be morally upright, at least a little? Which just means that if you think along those moral lines and separate the facts of the matter and your current emotions (be it angry or sad or SIAO), you basically are “thinking” and should think of solving the problem (if any). I was disappointed with myself yesterday because i wasn’t able to separate the facts from my primal emotions and caused a furor, though the other party wasn’t doing much of that also. However, me, still staying me, provided a solution to the issue yet it still did not absolutely solve the matter. I then realised that what i did not do was apologise and actually, the manner which i presented myself seeked more resentment rather than redemption. I had my ego ahead of my mind at the moment. Learning this art of thinking and acting properly at such intense and critical moments is important in human relations and social interaction as the rules of influence stay the same. We just have to take a step back sometimes and exercise those rules and not bitch about things on the spot. When was the last time you encountered yourself doing so? How did you act then and what did you think about it after? Were you still wallowing in self-pity or you went on the path of “thinking straight”? I consider this as a lesson and hopefully i can redeem myself somehow and all will be forgiven (dependent on the person too) and we can move on on this small tiny weeny issue.

P.S. Did not reveal the facts of the matter because it’s a sensitive issue.

P.P.S. Working life is full of ridiculous ups and downs. You might be good, are others that good? Those who are better, are they truly better?

With Love,

Kelvin